Control your internal autopilot. Get clear on your values.


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Your values have control of your actions. You need to know them to understand yourself.

We are far less rational than we believe.

Lots of unconscious forces power our decisions each day.

From our habits to our values, we humans run on autopilot far more often than we think.

That’s why it’s important to get clear on your values.

Here are 3 ways to find and name your core values:

  1. Choose from a list of words
  2. There are lists of “value” words all over the place online. One of the most comprehensive I’ve ever seen is at https://liveboldandbloom.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/01/400-personal-values-list.pdf. Make several passes through the list circling what resonates. With each pass through the list, narrow your choices until only the three to five most important remain.

  3. I would never...
  4. While people have a hard time just naming their values, we’re often clear on what we WON’T do. Start with the phrase “I would never...” and then fill in the sentence as many times as you can. Review the list and see if any of the opposites make sense as values (e.g. ”I would never lie” means you may value honesty or integrity or truth seeking.)

  5. Mine your journals and other writings.
  6. Your core beliefs may literally jump off the page in your own writing. Read a sample of your past writing and see if anything jumps out at you.